I’d recently taken the kids in to the paed’s for a check-up and was waiting for our turn when a young, well-dressed Mother rushed in with a 1.5 to 2 years old toddler (a boy) in her arms.
A 5 year old girl trailed behind her mother carrying a rather large and heavy diaper bag. She had an LV bag on her arm and spoke with an annoyingly fake American accent.
“Please help me, nurse, he has a very high fever!”
The nurses came over to help her as everyone could see that the little boy was very sick. His eyes were closed tight and he was groaning unconsciously in his mother’s arms.
They took the toddler’s temperature and asked the mother the following questions:
- When did the fever begin?
- How high was the fever?
- What fever medications did he take?
The mother was quite upset by the questions – she wanted them to care for the boy instead of asking her endless questions.
However, these questions are important because the paediatrician and the nurses do not want to risk an overdose of paracetamol (or acetaminophen under the brand Tylenol in the US) or ibuprofen.
NOTE:
Normal body temperature is 37 degrees C. 38 deg C is a “fever”. 39 deg C is a “high fever”.
If your baby is 0 – 3 months old and has a fever, bring your baby to see a doctor as soon as possible. Don’t take risks.
One of my cousins died of a fever when she was a baby. She just kept crying and crying. My aunt panicked and kept calling my grandmother who was miles away but didn’t think to bring her to a doctor. My cousin lost her twin sister.
- Paracetamol is sold under the brands Panadol and Uphamol in Malaysia.
- Ibuprofen is sold under the brand Nurofen. Ibuprofen is a rather “strong” medicine and is administered only when necessary. Paediatricians tend to prescribe paracetamol first.
Here is a useful dosage chart for:
a) paracetamol/acetaminophen and
b) ibuprofen
For baby / toddler’s weight in KG, just divide (/) the weight in LB by 2.2. For your baby’s weight in LB, just multiply (x) by 2.2.
For example: My baby weighs 9 kg. Her weight in pounds would be 9 x 2.2 = 19.8 lb
Useful references from Babycenter:
- Baby fever – signs, symptoms and what you should do
- Can a high fever cause brain damage?
- A high fever could mean Roseola
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The story continues…
When the mother calmed down and answered the questions, the rest of us in the waiting room heard these:
a) She didn’t want to give the little boy any medicine because she thought she could bring the fever down herself. The toddler’s fever started at 38 deg C.
b) She refused to tell the nurses if she sponged him or not. She just kept on repeating: “I gave him Tylenol, you know. Tylenol is fever medicine, right? Don’t you know Tylenol?”
I thought she was silly because the nurses were trying to be helpful but she was talking to them as if they were the stupid ones. Excuse me, the nurses are trying to help you!
c) The toddler had a fever of 38 – 38.5 deg C for the past 2 days. When the senior nurse took the temperature, the toddler’s fever was already 39 deg C. She told the mother she should have brought the little boy in on the second day.
The mother said, “I was very busy, you know. And I have this little girl’s school activities and a million other things…”
“Ma’am, your son has a high fever. If his fever doesn’t come down, you must try to bring him in as soon as you can. With H1N1, hand-foot-mouth-disease and other illnesses, we need to be extra careful now.”
If the paediatrician didn’t step out, I think this mother would have attacked the nurse!
Luckily, the doctor calmed her down and told her the same thing the nurses did -_-
Because she’d given the little boy Tylenol just an hour ago, they couldn’t give him another dose. She was asked to wait.
I pitied the little boy because he was clearly having a high fever. He looked like an active boy (like mine) and seeing him crying, eyes closed and sleeping listlessly meant that he was really sick.
The little girl was shocked by all the drama and also because her mother kept scolding her. Poor thing.
She’s only 5 and she was trying to carry a heavy diaper bag – looks very much like an Allerhand to me.
When the mother finally sat down and looked around her, she suddenly realized that at least 6 – 8 parents and 5 children had witnessed the drama. And I think she realized what a jerk she looked like then.
Then, the paediatrician and a nurse came out and ushered her and the kids to a small room nearby. And we all heard the poor little boy scream and scream.
A few parents and I brought our kids out of the waiting room.
Why am I telling you this story?
Please take a fever seriously no matter how old your baby / child is.
Don’t play doctor. If you do, you’re playing with your child’s health and life.
I may joke about a lot of things but I am very, very serious when it comes to health and safety issues.
At the end of the day, you really have to ask yourself:
“Which is more important? Your friends? Your Facebook fans? Your online business? Or your babies?”
If anything happens to your child, can your Facebook fans do anything? No.
Will you be able to take care of your online business while you’re busy caring for your sick child? No.
A lot of Moms feel as if they are “missing out on life” when they have a baby. Honestly, ladies, Facebook, LV bags, eBay and sales will still be there no matter if your baby is 1 month old or 20 years old.
I saw my first LV bag when I was like, 6 years old? I am now pushing 40 and guess what? LV bags are still around! Don’t be a sucker. And no, I do not own an LV bag. Do I want to? Maybe yes. Maybe no.
But your baby? He / she will grow up and before you know it, it’s time to leave home. You don’t wanna say, “I wish I didn’t spend so much time on Facebook etc.”
I love the way the Chinese call their babies “bǎo bèi” 宝贝 which translates into “precious”, “treasure” and “darling”. Let’s put the precious darling treasures first, ok? Take care and God bless.
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I’m so with you.
I hate it when my girls get a temperature. But with the help of Calpol (paracetamol) they’re usually back to normal soon enough. Have my little medical kit that I take with me when I travel which includes a digital ear thermometer and travel sachets of Calpol. My mum and many family members in Malaysia think I’m being too cautious and strange. I tell them I NEED to know what their exact temperatures and a means to get it down if they run a fever. I’m not about to hope the airline may have something suitable on a long haul flight. Better to be safe than sorry I say. My dad’s eldest brother died of a high fever as a baby, albeit during the war but still the risk is always there and children can deteriorate quite rapidly without appropriate care.
Thanks for spreading your knowledge Kit! I was quite the clueless mummy when I started out but I know better now. I’m sure there are new (and not so new) mummies who will find this very helpful.
Mx
Marvel just had a fever yesterday, due to common cold. soaking in warm water bath helps him to feel better and also help decrease the fever (he refused to be sponged). it’s important to stay calm and rational (i know it’s easy to say, when your child is sick all your logic is out of the town – just like me :p) but still we have to know the when is the emmergency signs alert.
I like to check symptons at mayoclinic & kidshealth website.
Btw, just read at the newspaper about a toddler (1.5 – 2 y) drown in his bath tub because his mother was busy browsing Facebook in other room T.T
Mamapumpkin – Guess we know what it’s like to have life-and-death situations, eh? I really hope that my readers will see that I’m sharing this as a sort of kind advice: “Don’t do what I used to do! Focus on what’s really important.”
Melina – You too eh? I don’t trust airlines or hotels or hospitals either. Often, they can’t help you when you need help the most. I have my my travel essentials too.
Lilis – Hope that Marvel’s all better now! My boy had an allergy attack yesterday and freaked me out. That’s the thing with kids: they can be all sunny and happy today and really sick the next.
I feel so sad hearing about the toddler who drowned. The poor mother…
silly mother!
this is really a good wake-up call for those FBookalic
tks for the reminder thou i would never take fever in kids lightly…..esp after witnessing my twins’ febrile seizure episode!!
i like it too….my baobei is above anything now, ehh so do my buffalo twins lar, hehe
gong xi fa cai to you KittyCat
allisia – Sigh…
jacss – I am very paranoid when it comes to illnesses. Maybe a bit too paranoid? I don’t know.
LOL Why do you call your kids “buffalo twins”? Are they anything like buffalo wings, one of my favourite snacks?
Gong Xi Fa Cai to you too!!!
gosh, if a mom cant decide whats more important, sick baby vs others.. then i wonder if she is really ready to be a mother
Karishma – You know what? I have a lot of experience taking care of babies, toddlers and kids and yet, I don’t think I was ever ready to be a mother
But I do hope that every mother WILL take their role as mothers seriously as you have rightly pointed out
Well said!!! I couldn’t agree more with you.
Im with you….. Totally agree with you 100%
Paik Ling –
Sheena – Thanks for agreeing with me. Nice to meet another like-minded mom. This is such an old post, I had to re-read it LOL